bint al-Harith (rah): She was the daughter of al-Harith ibn Abi Dirar,
the chief of Banu Mustaliq, who was defeated with his tribe in a
battle. She was a wife of Muhammad (saw), and a Mother of the
Believers. She married Muhammad (saw) in 628.
bint Zam'aa (rah) : Sawda bint Zam'a was the first woman to emigrate to
Abyssinia with her first husband As-Sakran bin Amr, after being
persecuted by the polytheists of Mecca. Her husband died either on the
way back to Mecca or after arriving. Sakran left Abyssinia by sea with
Waqqas to preach. Sawda and Sakran had a son, Abdur Rahman ibn Sakran,
who was killed in the Battle of Jalula in 637 AD.
gave permission to Khawla to speak to Abu Bakr and to Sawda on the
subject of their marriage. Rasulullah(saw) married her in Shawwal, in
the tenth year of His Prophethood.
another hadith narrated by Ahmed and Thirmidi , Aisha (rah) said , The
Messenger of Allah(saw) use to not leaving house without praising
Khadija (rah) , which is amazing that the love Rasulullah(saw)
had for her. One of these days he praised her , and out of jealousy I
said ,was she not but an elder women that Allah has replaced her for
you with what is better, He(saw) become anger and said NO by Allah, he
did not replaced me with any one better.
She had faith in me when people rejected.
She belived me when people dis-belived me ,
She made comfortable with what she had when people denied me and Allah
has blessed me with children from her.
Rasulullah(saw) would become angry when he hear
anything against Khadija (rah) , this shows the aspect of the
personality of Rasulullah(saw),
his loyalty to the people who are close to him. This is years after
Khadija (rah) passed away , normally an opportunist person will forget
once the person has gone and that’s the end of the relationship
but Rasulullah(saw) would always remember his old friends ,
Hamza bin abdul Mutalib(ra) ,
Musa bin Umair (ra).
passed away one of the last thing he did was he visited the cemetery of
his friends who died in the battle of Uhad. 70 companions died in the
battle of Uhad , when Rasulullah(saw) felt that he will be leaving this world soon
he went to cemetery and pray (make dua) for them, the dua includes is
we will meet”,
Rasulullah(saw) was missing them so much and asking
Allah(swt) to bring him with them and join them together in Jannah
Rasulullah(saw) had this strong relationship and loyalty with the sahaba , he never
forgot his wife Khadija(rah), who stood with him in the moments of
difficulties, he never forgot that , he will continuously make dua for
her and mention her name. Khadija was a special person, when
was living Jibreel (as) descended on Mohammed(saw) and said ‘Khadija is
going to approach you now and she is carrying some food’ , when she
arrives tell her that Allah is giving her ‘salam’ and tell her
that I am giving her salaam , then Jibreel(as) told Rasulullah(saw) give her the glad tidings of a palace in
paradise that is how special Khadija (rah) was.
Khadija(rah) was one of the four greatest women that ever
lived, Rasulullah(saw) said that the greatest Women that ever set
foot on the face of the earth are four
Mariam bint Imran
Khadija bint Khwayled
Fatima bint Mohammed
Asia bint muzahm
Jami` at-Tirmidhi Chapters on Virtues
Narrated Anas [may Allah be pleased with him]:
the Prophet (saw) said: "Sufficient for you among the women of mankind
are Mariam bint 'Imran, Khadijah bint Khuwailid, Fatimah bint Muhammad
and Asiyah the wife of Fir'awn."
Jami` at-Tirmidhi Chapters on Virtues
– Grade : Sahih
: Vol. 1, Book 46, Hadith 3878
: Book 49, Hadith 4252
These are the greatest women the greatest among them is Mariyam (as)
the verse in Quran
'Ali `Imran (Family of Imran) Chapter 3: Verse 42
[mention] when the angels said, "O Mary, indeed Allah has chosen you
and purified you and chosen you above the women of the worlds.
(remember) when the angels said: "O Maryam (Mary)! Verily, Allah has
chosen you, purified you (from polytheism and disbelief), and chosen
you above the women of the 'Alamin (mankind and jinns) (of her
2nd greatest Women is Khadija (rah) followed by 3rd greatest Women is
Fatima bint Mohammed and 4th is Asia bint Muzahm (wife of the Pharaoh).
of these four women had something to do with a Nabi (Prophet) , two of
them are mothers of Anbiya (Prophet), Mariyam (as) brought up Isa (as)
and Aisa (as) brought up Musa (as) . Khadija was
of a Nabi (Prophet) and Fatima was a daughter of a Nabi (prophet).
Rasulullah(saw) reached the age of 25 , he is known as been chaste in
environment that is corrupt. [The reason to point this is that some of
the professional enemies of Islam try to attach Rasulullah(saw)
in his marriage life, they talk lot about he(saw) married Aisha (ra) ,
he(saw) married 12 women] Lets look at the marriage life of Rasulullah(saw), lets study it.
1) Rasulullah(saw) reaches to the age of 25 in an environment
where the zina/adultery/fornication was wide spread.
hadith of Aisha(rah) in bukhari which stats about the four different
types of relationship that existed between men and women.
It was corrupt environment, Rasulullah(saw) was able to fight the tide and stay away from
all of this corruption all the way.
- Traditional Marriage
- Brothels that were legal in mecca , that had
flags on top of them as signs for anyone interested for this corrupt
with sleep with group of men that could go up to 10 , then if she
become pregnant and deliver the child then she will call these men in
and pick them any one of them and say you are the father of this child
- A strange relationship where man will allow his
wife to sleep with a noble man in order to have some noble
Sahih al-Bukhari - Book of
Wedlock, Marriage (Nikaah)
Whoever said, "A marriage is not valid except through the Wali."
Narrated 'Urwa bin Az-Zubair:
the wife of the Prophet (saw) told him that there were four types of
marriage during Pre-Islamic period of Ignorance.
One type was
similar to that of the present day i.e. a man used to ask somebody else
for the hand of a girl under his guardianship or for his daughter's
hand, and give her Mahr and then marry her.
The second type
was that a man would say to his wife after she had become clean from
her period. "Send for so-and-so and have sexual intercourse with him."
Her husband would then keep awy from her and would never sleep with her
till she got pregnant from the other man with whom she was sleeping.
When her pregnancy became evident, he husband would sleep with her if
he wished. Her husband did so (i.e. let his wife sleep with some other
man) so that he might have a child of noble breed. Such marriage was
called as Al-Istibda'.
Another type of marriage was that a
group of less than ten men would assemble and enter upon a woman, and
all of them would have sexual relation with her. If she became pregnant
and delivered a child and some days had passed after delivery, she
would sent for all of them and none of them would refuse to come, and
when they all gathered before her, she would say to them, "You (all)
know waht you have done, and now I have given birth to a child. So, it
is your child so-and-so!" naming whoever she liked, and her child would
follow him and he could not refuse to take him.
type of marriage was that many people would enter upon a lady and she
would never refuse anyone who came to her. Those were the prostitutes
who used to fix flags at their doors as sign, and he who would wished,
could have sexual intercourse with them. If anyone of them got pregnant
and delivered a child, then all those men would be gathered for her and
they would call the Qa'if (persons skilled in recognizing the likeness
of a child to his father) to them and would let the child follow the
man (whom they recognized as his father) and she would let him adhere
to him and be called his son. The man would not refuse all that. But
when Muhammad (saw) was sent with the Truth, he abolished all the types
of marriages observed in pre-Islamic period of Ignorance except the
type of marriage the people recognize today.
Sahih al-Bukhari 5127
In-book reference: Book 67, Hadith 63
USC-MSA web (English) reference : Vol.
1, Book 62, Hadith 58
(deprecated numbering scheme)
2) At the age of 25 He(saw) chooses the women
who is 15 years older than himself and she is a Widowed or
Divorced, Rasulullah(saw) being from the noble family of baniHashim , he
could have chosen for himself any women he wanted in mecca.
he would have interested in the desire , he would have chosen for
himself a young women to marry rather then marring a lady who is 15
years older then him, Khadija (rah) was 40 years old when Rasulullah(saw) married her.
remains with Khadija(rah) until he reaches the age of 50 , the age that
a men haves a strong desire over women would be from young age to
around age of 50. That’s the age of the man to have his strong desire. Rasulullah(saw) to remain in marriage with khadija (rah) in a very happy
marriage and it was not reported at all that Rasulullah(saw) had any intention of marring anybody else ,
did’nt even contemplate the idea . The happy marriage life of Rasulullah(saw) with Khadija (rah) for 25 years is a clear
indication that Rasulullah(saw) had none of those thoughts in his
Khadija (rah) passes away , Rasulullah(saw)
remain as a bachelor for about 2 to 3 years, later on he marries
another widow Sayeeda Saudah (rah) , the reasons for him marring Saudah
(rah) because Saudah (rah) was in Abysinia , she came back to Mecca and
her husband passed away , Rasulullah(saw) out of his care for his companion he married
her. Husband died and she did not have any one to provide for
her , Rasulullah(saw)
marries her and she was very old in age , later on in Madina Saudah
(rah) ended up giving up her night to Aisha (rah) because of her old
Sunan Abi Dawud » Book of Marriage (Kitab
Al-Nikah) » Hadith
Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah)
Narrated Hisham b. 'Urwah:
the authority of his father that 'Aishah said: O my nephew, the
Messenger of Allah (saw) did not prefer one of us to the other in
respect of his division of the time of his staying with us. It was very
rare that he did not visit us any day (i.e. he visited all of us every
day). He would come near each of his wives without having intercourse
with her until he reached the one who had her day and passed his night
with her. When Saudah daughter of Zam'ah became old and feared that the
Messenger of Allah (saw) would divorce her, she said: Messenger of
Allah, I give to 'Aishah the day you visit me. The Messenger of Allah
(saw) accepted it from her. She said: We thing that Allah, the Exalted,
revealed about this or similar matter the Qur'anic verse: "If a wife
fears cruelty or desertion on her husband's part...." [4:128]."
Sunan Abi Dawud » Book of Marriage (Kitab
Al-Nikah) » Hadith
Grade : Hasan Sahih (Al-Albani)
Reference : Sunan Abi Dawud 2135
In-book reference : Book 12,
English translation : Book 11,
Surat An-Nisa' (The Women) 4:128
if a woman fears from her husband contempt or evasion, there is no sin
upon them if they make terms of settlement between them - and
settlement is best. And present in [human] souls is stinginess. But if
you do good and fear Allah - then indeed Allah is ever, with what you
if a woman fears cruelty or desertion on her husband's part, there is
no sin on them both if they make terms of peace between themselves; and
making peace is better. And human inner-selves are swayed by greed. But
if you do good and keep away from evil, verily, Allah is Ever
Well-Acquainted with what you do.
Suddenly the last 10 years of Rasulullah(saw)
married many women to the extent that when he died he left behind 9
Widows ,so how come this stage from the age of 25 to 50 only married
Khadija (rah) but then within the last 10 years of his life [2 to 3
years after Khadija (rah) passed away he was bachelor] he married and
leaves behind 9 widows , what would be the reason
i) Forge alliances with different Tribes,
When we study the life of Rasulullah(saw)
we must look at this life comprehensively . The Messenger of Allah
(saw) devoted all of his efforts underline all , for the promotion of
Islam. Everything that he would do even the decision in marriage would
be on the base of benefit of Islam , whatever that Rasulullah(saw)
did in his life, the intention of it to promote the religion of Allah.
He would not do anything purely to satisfy his human desire. He would
do it to please Allah (az Zaujal) , therefore we need to look at his
marriage life in this light . He married few of his wives to forge
alliance with different tribes , bring them closer to Islam like his
marriage with Juwairiya
(rah) it ended up the whole trip of banu
mustaliq in becoming Muslim.
ii) Caring for his companions (his
wanted to strengthen his ties with his closest companions , he had very
strong brotherly feeling towards his companions and there were special
group among them with whom Rasulullah(saw) wanted to have a stronger relationship that
only to have Islamic brotherhood and also to add family ties.
someone who did not experience the Islamic brotherhood , its difficult
for them to appreciate this , what if you have lived like Rasulullah(saw)
with his companions for 23 years , what bond will develop between them
. Subhanallah they were together in the moments of ease and
the moments of difficulties, on the battle field , in the times of
peace , they will eat together , they will travel together .
relationship that Rasulullah(saw)
had with sahaba (Companions) was so strong (we will discuss in details
about this relationship in our Madina Era, especially when Rasulullah(saw)
passed away the feeling of loss its something that we cannot describe
). In order to maintain the close relationship between him and his
He(saw) married the daughter of Abu-bkr(ra) ,
He(saw) married the daughter of Omar-bin-Khattab (ra),
He married his daughter to Othman-bin-Affan(ra), when this daughter
passed away he married another of his daughter to Othman-bin-Affan(ra)
and she also passed away then Rasulullah(saw)
said if i had 99 daughters i will marry them to Othman-bin-Affan one
after another. Rasululllah(Saw) wanted to have this relationship
between him and Othman-bin-Affan (ra)
He (saw) married most beloved daughter Fatima (rah) to Ali-bin-abiTalib
marriages is to have the family relationship between him and 4 caliphs
[Abu-bkr, Omar, Othaman, Ali]
iv) Conveying the Religion , we are to
follow the sunnah of Rasulullah(saw)
, he had the sunnah as a statesmen, a sunnah as a teacher , sunnah as a
Imam, sunnah as a military leader, he had the sunnah as a family man.
Now we had 100s of his companions to convey his sunnah as statesmen ,
as amilitary leader, as a teacher, as an Imam but how do we have to
tell us about his family life? . Rasulullah(saw) did not had lot of children that survived him
except Fatima(rah), so who will convey us his family life?
IT HIS WIVES.
If Rasulullah(saw) only had one wife ,
• first of all it would be difficult for
this one wife to re-call every aspects of the family life of Rasulullah(saw)
she could be easily discredited , because its from only one
source. We know that enemies of Islam attack
Abu-Hurayra(ra) because the know that if they discredited
Abu-Hurayra(ra) they can completely destroy over 5000 of sayings
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mustaliq: The Banu al Mustaliq, allied to the Quraish of Mecca, were
the subject to a pre-emptive attack by Muhammad (saw) in the month of
Sha'ban of the year 626 (5 AH). Muhammad (saw) had received news that
the tribe was gathering together against the Muslims under the
leadership of al-Harith ibn Abi Dirar. The Muslim force met the Banu
Mustaliq in battle at a watering place called al-Muraysi‘ and defeated
them soundly, taking the Mustaliq chief, al-Harith and others captive.